Every year, on 25th of November, we, Indonesian, celebrate Teachers’ Day. Teachers have important roles in our society and they have dedicated one day to show how appreciated all teachers around the country. There are parents who give various give to teachers, a school makes a program to show their appreciation and thanks toward their teachers, and even students who create a surprise for their teachers. However, they limit what teachers are by doing this. The impression I got from this Teachers’ Day is teachers are those people who only teach in a classroom, or in a school or any other educational institution. No, teachers are not limited to that, Parents are teachers, they are even the first teachers of their kid. A 15 years old student can be a teacher for their friends or their younger siblings.
I felt blessed and thanks for all dedicated teachers all over Indonesia, who do their best to educate future leader of Indonesia. Parents are one of the most important teachers. They are the first teacher for their child. They are the one who gives the first ink in that white and pure sheet of paper. They are the one who shapes that malleable pottery into either an art-piece or a trash. However, not all parents took teachers role seriously.
There are 5 types of parents
- The over-protective one
- The over-permissive one
- The laundry parents
- The over-demanding parents
- The ideal parents
Let’s discuss these types of parents one-by-one
The over-protective parents
They are that parents who tell their children “Don’t do this, don’t do that….”. This kind of parents would nurture a child with high anxiety. They have a good intention but they actually didn’t do any good toward their children.
The over-permissive parents
Ahh, this was me 2 years ago. I am quite lucky that I learn step by step that this kind of parenting style can be quite toxic as well. They are similar to those parents who reject their children. How come? Because it will give the impression to the children that I can do whatever I want my parents will permit me anyway. Parents words didn’t carry any more weight because the child knows his/her parents will permit her anyway, why bother asking for a permission.
The over-demanding parents
These parents are like ASIAN parents that are portrayed by memes society. Are you a doctor yet? How come you only got 95 and not 100? How come Mr. A’s son can do that but you can’t? Why can’t you be just like our neighbor’s kid? Why you eat so messy (asking this to 5 years old)? Some parents use peer pressure to motivate their child, but did this really work? Most of the time, NO.
The laundry parents
Parents who give their child to other to nurture their child. Either they send their child to a school and just assume the school will take full responsibility for their child’s rearing and education. No, that’s not how any of these things work. There will be no great education for a child without the parents’ involvement. Or even worse, they assign a personal assistant to their child, who will satisfy all their child’s necessity. Preparing for them for school, make sure he/she has everything on their bags for school, tidy up their bedroom, clean their room, loved them, etc. Again, NO, this is not how things work.
The last one, The Ideal Parents
Are those who know when to be protective, when to be permissive and when they can be demanding. Being parents is an art, you learn give color to that clean, white, pure piece of sheet(your child), you shape them, you nurture them, you nourish them, you loved them. I know being parents is a lot of work. I have seen a lot of kids who are not well-nurtured, mannerly speaking. And most of the times, it’s the parents’ fault. (Not every time ya)
If I were parents 2 years ago, I would be the permissive type. However, as I observe, as I learn, as I converse with lots of children, I learn more and more how difficult it is to be parents. So, this writing I dedicate to our teachers, our parents, those who tried their best for their children, making mistakes along the way, and keep improving themselves for their children, SALUTE TO YOU. HAPPY TEACHERS DAY.
Picture was taken from = https://parentsasteachers.org/